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What do you expect? What do single men and women think of marriage? Or do I have to write a poll for all of you to choose and just explain your side? How about those who are single again men and women? What do they expect when it comes to having relationship with us, single again? Can you tell the difference? Will you have a good and promising marriage if you marry a single or a married one? I can tell the difference between my personality when I was single and it changes a lot when I got married. I realized and learned a lot and that made me stronger and fearless of whatever kind of relationship to come. Tell me and i'll tell you what I know  Simply J |
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11/12/2007 4:35 pm |
Wow, that is not too much to ask. Is it too much for men?  I think, before you have a relationship with a man, he should have all of that, what you're asking for.I have been attending a group of Filipinas who were divorced from their Japanese husbands, take note: all of us are Japanese's wives  We meet every weekdays of the week, depending on the situation. we talk about our stories, share laughter, secrets, and advise each other. There are 3 groups in that community: first group are the wives of cheaters or what we call the ABANDONADA; second, the group of wives who cheated and reconciled with their husbands and divorced again and we call them BALIK-BAYAN; the last group is the group of widowed wives who chose to live here in the Philippines than live in Japan and they call themselves, TIL DEATH DO US PART.  they made these names to make their identity understandable This is the reason I wrotew this post  Simply J
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11/12/2007 4:42 pm |
You're right! During the first few years of marriage life, we have to adjust to our new situation and obligation. Being single and married have a big difference. I also thought the same as you, but the differrence between our relationship with our partbners is that I live with my in-laws, and they are the poison.  Why I said that I am fearless is that, I have no plan to find a new lover as for the moment, I just had ended the old one. Form our own dating or friendship site? Isn't it AsiaFind is the same as what you're planning to form?Simply J
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11/13/2007 4:39 pm |
Mahal ko salamat for the greeting and wishes and I also wish the same for you I know what you feel my friend. Being single means having a lot of freedom. It was like waking up in the morning and cook for yourself and just prepeare yourself and everything's done. While living with your partner, children and in0-laws.....you almost have no time for yourself. sometimes I thought that I just cooked breakfast and here I am again in front of the kitchin to cook dinner.Love from many people makes us happy also but love from your lover is different. It makse us feel young, active and balanced. Well, of course it depends on the partner that you got Single people before they marry, they have a lot of dreams to do for her future husband and children but when they already in that situation...some just give-up, because they lost the freedom that they had and they have no time to talk about love. they lost the spark that they used to have from the beginning and they lately realized that they need space and time to think alone. There are lot's of reason why this happen. Disillusioned, of the thought that their plans and dreams aren't met. Or is there something that you wanted to add for this? I fear that I can't explain myside so well through writing but I have a lot to tell if in person. Thanx mahal and have a good day too. Simply J
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11/14/2007 7:49 pm |
very good point Will you share something you know to us? Simply J
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just like the old phrase..."promises are made to be broken... Failed marriages ends the same...
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you know what after my first romance i expect more, not good but more, more worse than the first so that's it, it's getting worse everyday ha ha ha tell me if you already found a good one. Seriously, marriage is a lifetime commitment Commitment means even your husband/wife cheated on you ten times or more, you should and must stay and forgive them,you should stay married and committed to them, you must stay in the relationship, in that case no way out. Commitment is a lifetime, till death do us part. so if there is no way out, pray that ASAP may the creator request them to join HIM in heaven see i am matured now, let see if i can do that! i doubt it!!! i miss you na, hope to see u again You laugh at me bec i am different, i laugh at you because you're all the same
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11/17/2007 6:40 am |
you know what after my first romance i expect more, not good but more, more worse than the first so that's it, it's getting worse everyday ha ha ha tell me if you already found a good one. Seriously, marriage is a lifetime commitment Commitment means even your husband/wife cheated on you ten times or more, you should and must stay and forgive them,you should stay married and committed to them, you must stay in the relationship, in that case no way out. Commitment is a lifetime, till death do us part. so if there is no way out, pray that ASAP may the creator request them to join HIM in heaven see i am matured now, let see if i can do that! i doubt it!!! i miss you na, hope to see u again Why Yes Never Cry Smile All The Time!!!! Yep'''.... 
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11/20/2007 7:30 pm |
just like the old phrase..."promises are made to be broken... Failed marriages ends the same... Parang sinabi mo na if there's a beginning, there's an ending)) How are you? Busy lately? Simply J
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11/20/2007 7:41 pm |
Do you think that they can find their right woman if they married a divorced woman or vise versa? Marrying single woman needs a lot of adjustment and might lead to divorce if she can't take the obligation (I was referring to those who choose to think of theirselves first than their husbands and children). There are also different case about divorced woman, she may be a great wife but his husband is no ggod husband and there are also bad and messy wives but the husband is a good husband. It puzzles me, will you please give me something to make my curiosity in peace Simply J
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11/20/2007 7:49 pm |
you know what after my first romance i expect more, not good but more, more worse than the first so that's it, it's getting worse everyday ha ha ha tell me if you already found a good one. Seriously, marriage is a lifetime commitment Commitment means even your husband/wife cheated on you ten times or more, you should and must stay and forgive them,you should stay married and committed to them, you must stay in the relationship, in that case no way out. Commitment is a lifetime, till death do us part. so if there is no way out, pray that ASAP may the creator request them to join HIM in heaven see i am matured now, let see if i can do that! i doubt it!!! i miss you na, hope to see u again I also think that way when I was younger. I thought that all men are here to hurt women But everything changed when I met my one and only ex-bf (Pinoy) take note (Harley Alarcon) ache che Why one and only......it's the longest and the best of all bf that I ever had (don't think green)My mother, eventhough my father cheated for many times, still they are together and now they are counting their days as who is going to go first (I have crazy parents ) You are talking as Filipino Christian way: Marriage is a commitment! (magpakamartyr ka!!!!!)You should be matured Elle baby..........you're about to leave the calendar kaya ingat sa mga wrinkles and freckles........nagpapabeauty uli ako, sorry.........may nakita na naman ako in sight  Simply J
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Jalo Girl, that kind of way of thinking about marriage and family life is because this is the way i brought up...you know, my father never cheated with my mom (at least that is what we know) we never seen them fighting nor shout to each other, the only sign that there is a cold war between, when my mom ask any one of us to give the coffee to him and when my father tell me to give his money to mom for the house expenses during pay day he he he he see this is funny but honestly that is the one thing that i have missed...well in my case i don't know yet if i can stay married to the man who will cheating on me, whenever i got married in the future. Let's wait and see... You laugh at me bec i am different, i laugh at you because you're all the same
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11/25/2007 4:44 pm |
Long time no chat my tomodachi You're right, marriage are for those who are blind. you need to be blind to see and pursue the commitment. I sometimes wonder why we ask our bestfriends for advise than talk with your spouses? What does your bestfriend know about what's happening between you and your partner. And how can your friend rely on your words telling him/her that you're not wrong. Unbelievable! Single people expect too much as to who he wants to be with and dream that the person he/she loved will stay the same when they are both get married. Time changes, as we people change, evry hour, minutes and seconds of the day. Some married people expect that there will be new, better husband/wife than his/her previous, excluding for those who hurt their wives physically. Thanx for your comment.......you always give a good point in my topic friend......jya nah! Simply J
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11/25/2007 4:48 pm |
Jalo Girl, that kind of way of thinking about marriage and family life is because this is the way i brought up...you know, my father never cheated with my mom (at least that is what we know) we never seen them fighting nor shout to each other, the only sign that there is a cold war between, when my mom ask any one of us to give the coffee to him and when my father tell me to give his money to mom for the house expenses during pay day he he he he see this is funny but honestly that is the one thing that i have missed...well in my case i don't know yet if i can stay married to the man who will cheating on me, whenever i got married in the future. Let's wait and see... If I can't stay that kind of situation......I won't ask if you can stay because the moment you heard the story maybe you had packed your things and left himHintay ka lang ng kano from me........he he he.......andaming gwaps dito. May CARacter na may PESOnality pa. Ah, dollares pala Simply J
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11/26/2007 4:35 pm |
I like your comment just the way I wanted to hear from others Compatible in what? They easily fall apart and give-up, never spend time to work it out because there are a lot of compatibility to try Now make me laugh again .....your straightforward opinions really rocks me Simply J
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12/3/2007 3:57 am |
You always bring out the best point in my topic my friend. Nigen wa muzukashii mono......kuwashiku setsumei dekinai, maaa shikataganai I am happy right now and I hope you are too my tomogirl. hoping that we both find the same happy people in our lives someday if.....you are still hoping to find oneSimply J
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