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My friend, are u really happy? It is the first time i get this question. Asked by a guy from toastmaster. I was really lost for a few secs coz i dont know how to answer him. No one asked if i am really happy or not. I answered, "Yes, im happy but also very tired". What about you? "My friend, are u really happy?" |
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Hi toukki Yes, i'm happy but at times i feel sad too. 
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10/30/2006 6:36 pm |
Why, yes! Just had a lovely breakfast at the market. I'm easily pleased. 
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10/30/2006 7:31 pm |
That is a really good question Miss Toukki. I can honestly say that I am so happy to have you and others like you as friends. Am I really happy with my interpersonal life at this point and time I have to be honest and say, no, not at this moment.However, I am a positive man who chooses to see the glass half full rather than half empty. No matter what is going on in my life that may be considered an unpleasant experience at the moment, I know this to shall pass. We can't always be happy, but we can surely keep a positive attitude when we are not happy. I know that when certain events pass from our lives, I will feel happy again. Miss Toukki, I'm happy to hear that you are happy. You are a very strong and intelligent as well as a respected lady which is much deserved. I am honored to have you as a friend Most of my friends are on AFF, I do not have that many friends in real life. Just keeping it real. Respectfully, Stan P.S. I am feeling a little lonely right now, I get that way sometimes but eventually the feeling passes. a student of life 
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10/30/2006 7:57 pm |
I am not as happy as I was 4 years ago. Since then I have lost my wife to cancer, we were married over 37 wonderful years. Then my daughter along with my 3 grandkids who use to live only 3 miles from me move 2000 miles away. I lost my brother in law to M/D and my son in law was killed in a Auto accident. This hurt. But all and all I am not unhappy. I have a good life and many freinds. I am active and healthy. Regards.
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10/30/2006 8:55 pm |
One of my friends often asked me such kind of quetion when I was home and to her disappointment, my answer was always, "Yes, I am." But at this moment, toukki, my anwer is "No." 
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It is inded a question that most people forgot to ask, you are lucky enough to have a friend like him who want to know if you are really happy or not, it really melt my heart coz no one ask me that either though i ask them the same. Most of the time we only ask "how are you?" "how was your day", we often wish happiness but we forgot to ask if they are happy. Nice to know that your happy even though your tired.I also feel the same. I just wish that everyone here will be happy also. Elle You laugh at me bec i am different, i laugh at you because you're all the same
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10/31/2006 6:05 am |
Pinky Same here. Im happy for a while. Then, sad later. Miss E im truly surprised. You are satisfied with an excellent meal? hmm.... can tell a lot from that  I will be very happy too if i get to eat my fav dish early in the morning LOL.leejunghong Welcome, May i point this out for you? You are one of the lucky ones who can do things that you enjoy and love. Its a pity how many of us cant really do things that we enjoy. I am one of those the unlucky one. Perhaps one day i can do things that i love. It takes time. I know i can get there. NickCanada Hello there Yes, having 'someone' will brighten ur days if both of u are happy. When things get stale or sad news sweeping over... bet its not that happy afterall isnt it? Not to discourage you but, only because of having sadness, one would know what is true JOY.MrStan There are things which i can learn from you. Unfortunately, i see the half-empty part. I always do that to myself. Kinda wonder maybe thats the 'root'. Yes, like you. I feel lonely sometimes. The feeling will pass. Its the matter of time (whether its short or long). Thank you for your compliments 36ford: Im sorry to read what u wrote to me. I knew i read it somewhere (u mentioned this before). Its the past. I can see u r a survivor.You went through a lot. You survived. Even though everything is out of your control, but u knew you still stand there coz that is "You". You are brave. I was very unhappy for the past few weeks. When i broke up with my ex (3 years relationship). I never have a backup or dont even think about getting a backup guy. All along, i have been honest, worked hard, supportive to him. Just because of birthdate incompatible excuse,we were apart. That day, i dropped a few tears. After that, i comfort myself to sleep. When i wake up, things just never the same again. I am much stronger. I do have to cheer myself more often Sunflower569 When i see ur picture, i see a beautiful lady who knows how to smile sweetly. I will be honest with you. Im surprised to see you said, "NO". From what i know, you deserve to be happy. If you are not happy, u need someone to ask you, "What would u do to make yourself happy?". My friend, how can i help u to make u feel happier when you dont want to help yourself? When you are lost, u know u will return to aff. Thats when u poured everything out (as your heart desires) to rant and continue to rant. There, u knew the answers from the beginning. Yet, sometimes the truth can be difficult. I know you are strong gal. You can make it. elle7806 Welcome my dear. Im glad u dropped by to make comments. You are right. People always ask "How are u? What u doing? Hope everything is ok". However, these questions are not in-depth into concerning a person. Things doesnt seemed to be so complicated afterall isnt it? My advice, if u want to tame a person... give him/her a hug. cutie dear : i enjoy that cheerful and ever looking optimistic character u have there asiafriend0405 dear : Asia girl, u r a smart person. Nothing can stop your way. Let me know when you are very happy coz i will be the first person to be happy for you. Always. rejoicefrance dear: Thank you for sharing your precious view. I dont believe i have reach that stage. Perhaps i will get in touch with that pretty soon. (I will try my best, trust me). kobaltz : You are welcome, kb. I do agree with what u have said. No pain no gain huh? Thank you. Looking at Goan Ice cream.....................
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Generally contented. Not sure that's the same as happy, but it will do for me. TG
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11/1/2006 1:48 am |
Thank you as well for the compliments Miss Toukki, I also learn from you as well. When I read your blog a while ago about you being pushed into an arranged marriage, you must have felt trapped. Hope, as long as we are alive and no one has that much control over our lives, we no longer feel trapped thus the glass will appear half full. I extend not only my friendship to you, but my hope as well Your friend, Stan a student of life
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11/1/2006 5:13 am |
I am neither happy nor unhappy at this moment, I can control my unhappy emotion and change it into happy. So unhappy is not frightful at all, we all can choose our attitudes. Please don't disturb a chicken before he hatches.
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11/1/2006 6:35 am |
TG: Im looking for 'content' feeling. I do find its extremely difficult to be happy for a minute, then sad for a few minutes. Its not healthy both mentally and physically. virgo: ah... if only i can always feel that way. MrStan: Glad u understand how i felt last time. Its indeed terrible! No one have power to influence me but my parents and my seniors. What to do? Its been decades we are taught to obey the elders. Sue dear: Yeah can understand that. Wonder if it really helps if we expect less and will get more in return? OR we should always expect more but yet we will constantly felt disappointment? oasispdc: Its good to know u have the strong ability to cheer yourself up. I felt i need 20-30 minutes to make my mood better (cheerful). I trained myself not to depress much longer coz it is not healthy in long term. However, mood changes too much is not healthy either.
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11/1/2006 6:47 pm |
Toukki, Thanks so much for your compliments! What I can say is "Thanks", and still "Thanks". "God only help those who help themselves", so I know which direction I should head for. Good luck!
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Ann, There are times that you are engulfed by sadness mainly because of some memories from the past... There are happy feelings when you are in constant contact with the one nearest to your heart!
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11/2/2006 3:27 pm |
Sunflower569 You are welcome Youngheart5656 Thank you youngheart for your encouraging words. Next time when i meet more bumps, i will always remembered that there are many other people who faced bigger bumps than i do. fedders Yeah, i do admit sometimes for no reasons i get flash back memories about what happened in the past (which really sadden my heart). When i tell this to others, they will say, "no, u mustnt think too much. Its unhealthy". However, have we ever thought about why the past is important? It is to remind us not to repeat the same mistakes. That is how we grow up, by trying to correct and to do better in the future. moogii Good to know you are happy DarkWolf1974 Hello Mr dark. What is the meaning of happiness? Is being happy always and no sadness / problems means we obtained happiness? Happiness comes in smaller dose. I do admit, sometimes we over-worked ourselves to achieve such little joy. Do not be sad. Afterall, from what u said, we slowly gather our happy moments. When its the time we get sad, we re-collect the memories of being joyful. pruna Overall, i have doubts in myself. I do see myself not a very happy person. Although i must admit, i am a cheerful person when i meet difficulties. Trying very hard not to go into extreme mood (but sometimes cannot prevent myself getting angry). Hey, being angry is bad, causing us to have heart disease/stroke LOL. Yeap, im simply very tired.
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11/4/2006 1:55 am |
goannaoil Yes. I know overall, even if i faced difficulties in the past, i still pride about it. I regarded it as loses/the lessons that we took for us to step above even more. Quote: This, in turn, comes from looking after yourself and doing the things that you want - heading in a direction that you choose. What more can i say? I am so grateful u said it because i can now see myself even clearer. As for the selfish part. I am particularly about it. I do think i do things for charities just to help others. I do know how people can act selfish by trying to take advantage of us. HOwever, i also know in the future, when i need their help, they might be directly (OR most of them , indirectly) help me in some ways. I do believe in: I treat u good, u treat me good, we treat each other good, then we all be safe. However, life isnt always fair. The only thing that hold dearly within ourselves is our personal believes (which we adopted from our parents, our genes, and evironment influences) plus religion. Its so becoming more important to remember our main ROOT. Goan, u made a long post for this. I have never received such a long reply from you. I am truly grateful for this. Am very very grateful. Sincerely saying thanks. We both are the same kind. The frank, stubborn, perfectionist, constantly trying our very best, sometimes we felt we didnt get the right attention and awards. I do understand this perfectly. The good news u will know is, i am slowly ignoring people that i think not worth spending time talking or replying. I have learnt to voice out my opinion. I dont care if it sounds rude or too upfront, but i still have to say out my feelings. As long as i made myself clear, and without intentionally to hurt others. Then, its ok. DarkWolf1974 My applause and congrats to you Mr Dark. You have achieved the score of being one of the happiest person on earth. I would say, some people might envy what u have at the moment. Yeap, i agree with you about outweighting happy moments vs sad moments. pruna Yes. Its so true. As long as we keep on trying, we will always find our happy moments even from the saddest moments.
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11/4/2006 4:34 pm |
Nope. Goan, u didnt wasted the time and energy. In fact, i should thanks u for making it much clearer to me
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