Blog : When In The Thick of It

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6/1/2007 5:07 pm

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6/14/2007 6:36 pm

When In The Thick of It

Do you have to share your lover's passions? I mean, if he likes monster trucks do you feel obligated to go with him. Should he go with friends? But what if you want him to go to a play with you? Should you expect him to go? Should you just go with your friends? How much together time is too much? If you know that your mate is only going with you to please you, should you let him off the hook? What if your friends aren't interested in what you want to go to?
I'm not into watching sports. Doing them is great, but I think they are kinda boring to watch. If it's something he really wants to watch, I might watch it for a little just to be with him, but then I'd have to get something else to do.
What about other tv viewing? Who gets the remote? When married, The Evil One, told me that I couldn't have the remote after he got home because I had it all day. Well, first of all, I had to work and didn't get to watch it. Second, there were only soaps on during the day. Hmmm.
I guess it all comes down to mutual respect. If you really love someone, you'll take turns and look out for their interests as well as your own.

fedders
(ANDREWS M.S.) 66M

1196 posts
6/2/2007 6:32 pm

If both poles retract, go find a steel, so it will attract not as sticky, but glue like...

If it's but a part to start a quarrel, I mean with just little indifference, it's a matter of time attentions and schedule!

Give and take, Deb!

Miss you!

mydogateit replies on 6/2/2007 10:00 pm:
Fedders,
Right give and take. Where do you find these kind of men, lol.....
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midorizen 58M

6/9/2007 5:35 pm

NEVER give up what means most to you for another.I did it,lost all of me,it wasn't good.As for TV ,I rarely watch it,and purposely losre the remote when i get a new set,so i have to get the exercise of getting up to change a channel.It's hard to find women that value anything but spending money these days,so i walk this path alone.As tiime goes by ,finding a soulmate,matters less and less.No time for games here.MY jaded opinion.

mydogateit replies on 6/10/2007 11:07 am:
Mi,

As long as your gf spends her own money, what does it matter? If you mean that she wants to spend yours then that's another matter. When you spend it on her, it should be because you want to, not because she thinks she is due it.
When you are married, that's a different story. The money belongs to both of you. How it should be spent needs to be agreed upon by both parties then. With cell phones now, there's little excuse not to consult a mate (both parties) on purchases above a pre-agreed upon amount. Another solution is separate bank accounts (I know a couple who do this), but it only works because they both make a similar amount. This becomes difficult to do with a disparity in income between a couple. It could be solved with percentages, meaning that they need to submit seventy five percent of their pay check to a third account no matter what they make. The twenty five percent is theirs to do as they wish. If one is only working part time to take care of their wee ones then, this adds further depth and should be taken into consideration. Above all, as long as it is truely fair to both parites then that's what matters. And if you are really in love, you would work to make it fair instead of trying to horde money. Remember in "The Christmas Carol", Scrooge missed out on the love of his life becaus he loved money more.
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