The Most Important Body Part
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Posted:Oct 7, 2007 1:05 am
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2010 6:53 am 6012 Views
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My mother used to ask me, “What is the most important part of the body?”
Through the years I would take a guess at what I thought was the correct answer. When I was younger, I thought sound was very important to us as humans, so I said, “My ears, Mommy.” She said, “No. Many people are deaf. But you keep thinking about it and I will ask you again soon.”
Several years passed before she asked me again. Since making my first attempt, I had contemplated the correct answer. So this time I told her, “Mommy, Sight is very important to everybody, so it must be our eyes.” She looked at me and told me, “You are learning fast, but the answer is not correct because there are many people who are blind.”
Stumped again, I continued my quest for knowledge and over the years, Mother asked me a couple more times and always her answer was, “No. But you are getting smarter every year, my .”
Then last year, my grandpa died. Everybody was hurt. Everybody was crying. Even my father cried. I remember that especially because it was only the second time I saw him cry. My Mom looked at me when it was our turn to say our final good-bye to Grandpa. She asked me, “Do you know the most important body part yet, my dear?” I was shocked when she asked me this now. I always thought this was a game between her and me.
She saw the confusion on my face and told me, “This question is very important. It shows that you have really lived in your life. For every body part you gave me in the past, I have told you you were wrong and I have given you an example why. But today is the day you need to learn this important lesson.”
She looked down at me as only a mother can. I saw her eyes well up with tears. She said, “My dear, the most important body part is your shoulder.”
I asked, “Is it because it holds up my head?”
She replied, “No, it is because it can hold the head of a friend or a loved one when they cry. Everybody needs a shoulder to cry on sometime in life, my dear. I only hope that you have enough love and friends, so you will always have a shoulder to cry on when you need it.”
Then and there I knew the most important body part is not a selfish one. It is sympathetic to the pain of others. People will forget what you said...People will forget what you did...But people will NEVER forget how you made them FEEL.
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人体最重要的部位
妈妈以前老问我：“人身上最重要的部位是什么？”
这些年来，我一直都在猜测自认为正确的答案。小时候，我觉得声音对我们人类很重要，于是我说：“是我的耳朵，妈咪。”妈妈说：“不是的，很多人可是听不见声音的哦。你继续思考吧，我很快会再问你的。”
几年后，她又问起这个问题来。自从第一次尝试回答后，我一直在琢磨着正确答案。所以，这次我对她说：“妈咪，视力对每个人都是非常重要的，所以，答案肯定是我们的眼睛。”妈妈看着我，对我说：“你领会得很快，但答案还是错了，因为有很多人是看不见东西的。”
又一次被难倒了，我只好继续寻求答案。几年来，妈妈又问了我几次，每次她的回答都是：“不对，孩子，不过你一年比一年聪明啦。”
去年，爷爷去世了。每个人都悲伤而泣，连父亲都痛哭失声。我到现在仍记忆犹新，因为那是我平生第二次看到父亲哭。轮到我们跟爷爷最后告别时，妈妈看着我，问：“宝贝儿，你现在知道人身上最重要的部位是什么了吗？”我当时大吃一惊，我一直以为这是我们俩之间的一个游戏而已。
看到我一脸疑惑，妈妈对我说：“这个问题非常重要，看来你一直都沉浸在自己的生活中。你以前每次给我答案时，我都跟你说错了，并且都举例说明。可今天，你应该学会这重要的一课。”
她低头看着我，那种神情只有一位母亲才有。我看见她热泪盈眶。她说：“宝贝儿，你身上最重要的部位就是你的肩膀。”
我问：“是因为它支撑着我的头吗？”
她回答道：“不，是因为当你的朋友或亲人哭泣时，它可以托起他们的头。宝贝儿，每个人的一生总有一些时候需要有个肩膀可以靠着哭泣。我只愿你有足够的爱和朋友，这样，当你需要时，总有一个肩膀给你哭泣。”
那会儿，我明白了人身体最重要的部位应该是无私的，它是对别人痛苦的同情。人们会忘记你说过的话……忘记你做过的事……但人们永远不会忘记你带给他们的感受。
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“死了的丈夫才是好丈夫”?
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Posted:Sep 25, 2007 7:20 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2009 1:12 am 6495 Views
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《死了的丈夫才是好丈夫》是德國女作家（Gaby Hauptmann）的暢銷小說。
在書裡頭，烏爾甦拉的丈夫是一位能幹而專橫的丈夫，在丈夫去世後，她決心擺脫過去的陰影。接管了公司，頻頻與男人約會。可是自此以後，她在生意上卻面對很多問題，和她在一起的男人也都遭遇不幸。仿佛是丈夫在冥冥中操控著一切。不過，當她結識了丈夫的情人以後，一切的疑惑與難題終於得以解決。在丈夫的情人身上，她終於找到破解丈夫的“詛咒”的關鍵……
“結婚後就失去了自由”是男人的經典名言。可是，我想，女人在一段婚姻裡頭失去的卻比男人更多。女人踏入婚姻後，尤其是有了孩子以後，不但沒有了自由，同時也失去了事業，理想與自我。
婚姻的意義對男人和女人來說是有著很大的差異的。
“成家立業” 至今仍是男人專用的詞。男人娶了個老婆回家，就好像娶了一顆定心丸。每天工作累了，回家有熱菜熱湯，衣物都有人打點，襪子再也不會剩下一只左腳或右腳，每天都有燙得筆直的襯衫長褲，衣領上的汗跡斑點也全都不見了。廚房也不會有堆積如山碗碟。晚上回家對著老婆發發牢騷，看看電視，沖沖電，明天一早又可以繼續為事業打拼。
可是，以“成家忘業”來形容已婚的女人也許更為貼切。很多女人，在外頭幹了一天的活，看了一天亂七八糟的人的臉色，受了一天的氣，回到家也無法好好地休息，還要洗手弄羹湯，打理瑣碎的家務。並且不能對丈夫發牢騷，不然就會被嫌羅唆。有了孩子以後，就算白天送去托兒所，晚上回來也要把時間讓給孩子。各種調查都顯示女人在家中承擔家務的時間比男人多。
不同的婚姻定位
要在事業與家庭中取得平衡是很難的。所以，很多時候，女人，不管她曾經多麼拼博，多有理想，婚後，尤其是生了孩子以後，往往都寧願放棄升職的機會或理想，把時間與精力留給自己家庭。而男人則正好相反，成家以後的男人在事業上就有了奮斗的目標與魄力。可以把更多的時間與精力放在事業上。
在沒有結婚以前，女人以為婚姻是王子與公主的幸福故事。當身邊的朋友一個接一個地被男人娶走了，心裡就越來越期待嫁人。於是，如果在這個時候，遇到一個稍微平頭整臉，看起來有潛力成為一個好丈夫的男人，女人就會踩著幸福的泡泡走入婚姻生活中。
最終與女人結婚的男人往往不是她的最愛，這句話說來有點熟口熟臉的。換句話說，有些男人只適合當情人，有的男人只適合作丈夫。婚後的女人，忙著適應新生活，無瑕多想，可是，一天又一天地過去，很多女人就會發現，原來婚姻對女人來說又是另一條無形的枷鎖。這是，心裡不禁又開始羨慕起身邊單身的朋友，週末假日時，不用看孩子，不用應酬親戚。可以快快樂樂地與男人或好友約會。想要去旅行時，請個假，買張機票就動身。只需向自己交待就夠了。
婚姻生活到了某個階段，就只剩下每天例牌的對話︰“你回來了？”，“你吃飽了嗎？”，“睡罷”一種枯燥的家常與無休止的責任，沒有了讓人陶醉的愛情。
我發現，東方人的婚姻幾乎是不需要愛情的，憑著責任感或責任心就維系一輩子。
也許是這樣，當有人問一些已婚或離過婚的女人，甚麼樣的丈夫才是好丈夫時，她們會說︰“死了的丈夫才是好丈夫。”
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Dr Phil did this test on Oprah - she got a 38.
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Posted:Sep 22, 2007 8:43 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2010 6:54 am 8656 Views
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Below is Dr Phil's test. Dr Phil did this test on Oprah - she got a 38. Some folks pay a lot of money to find this stuff out!
Don't be overly sensitive! The following is pretty accurate and it only takes 2 minutes. Take this test for yourself.
Answers are for who you are now 每 not who you were in the past.
This is a real test given by the Human Relations Department at many of the major corporations today. It helps them get better insight concerning their employees and prospective employees. It's only 10 Simple questions, so grab a pencil and paper, keeping track of your letter answers to each question.
Ready?? Begin.
1. When do you feel your best?
a) in the morning
b) during the afternoon &and early evening
c) late at night
2. You usually walk...
a) fairly fast, with long steps
b) fairly fast, with little steps
c) less fast head up, looking the world in the face
d) less fast, head down
e) very slowly
3. When talking to people you...
a) stand with your arms folded
b) have your hands clasped
c) have one or both your hands on your hips
d) touch or push the person to whom you are talking
e) play with your ear, touch your chin, or smooth your hair
4. When relaxing, you sit with＃
a) your knees bent with your legs neatly side by side
b) your legs crossed
c) your legs stretched out or straight
d) one leg curled under you
5. When something really amuses you, you react with...
a) big appreciated laugh
b) a laugh, but not a loud one
c) a quiet chuckle
d) a sheepish smile
6. When you go to a party or social gathering you＃
a) make a loud entrance so everyone notices you
b) make a quiet entrance, looking around for someone you know
c) make the quietest entrance, trying to stay unnoticed
7. You're working very hard, concentrating hard, and you're interrupted...
a) welcome the break
b) feel extremely irritated
c) vary between these two extremes
8. Which of the following colors do you like most?
a) Red or orange
b) black
c) yellow or light blue
d) green
e) dark blue or purple
f) white
g) brown or gray
9. When you are in bed at night, in those last few moments before going to sleep you are＃
a) stretched out on your back
b) stretched out face down on your stomach
c) on your side, slightly curled
d) with your head on one arm
e) with your head under the covers
10. You often dream that you are...
a) falling
b) fighting or struggling
c) searching for something or somebody
d) flying or floating
e) you usually have dreamless sleep
f) your dreams are always pleasant
POINTS:
1. (a) 2 (b) 4 (c) 6
2. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 7 (d) 2 (e) 1
3. (a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 5 (d) 7 (e) 6
4. (a) 4 (b) 6 (c) 2 (d) 1
5. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 2
6. (a) 6 (b) 4 (c) 2
7. (a) 6 (b) 2 (c) 4
8. (a) 6 (b) 7 (c) 5 (d) 4 (e) 3 (f) 2 (g) 1
9. (a) 7 (b) 6 (c) 4 (d) 2 (e) 1
10.(a) 4 (b) 2 (c) 3 (d) 5 (e) 6 (f) 1
Add up the total number of points.Make sure to put YOUR score in the subject box.
COMMENT will in the next post..
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如果这就是爱
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Posted:Sep 17, 2007 12:40 am
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2009 1:10 am 5934 Views
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每个人都想明白
谁是自己生命不该错过的真爱
特别在午夜醒来更是会感慨
心动埋怨还有不能释怀
都是因为你触碰了爱
如果这就是爱
再转身就该勇敢留下来
就算受伤就算流泪
都是生命里温柔灌溉
哦!爱在回忆里总是那么明白
困惑的心流过的泪
还有数不清黑夜等待
如果这就是爱
如果你当时明白
后来的生命里是快乐还是悲哀
特别在夜深人静时想起未来
是否能平静不会想现在
只是因为你拥有了爱
如果这就是爱
再转身就该勇敢留下来
就算受伤 就算流泪
都是生命里温柔灌溉
哦!爱在回忆里总是那么明白
困惑的心 流过的泪
还有数不清黑夜等待
如果这就是爱
如果这就是爱....
张学友..如果这就是爱
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Is it works ?????
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Posted:Sep 11, 2007 7:44 pm
Last Updated:Sep 23, 2009 1:08 am 5669 Views
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5 simple guidelines for happiness :
[1]Free your heart from hate
[2]Free your mind from worry
[3]Live simply
[4]Give more
[5]Expect less
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Who says our English is teruk?
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Posted:Aug 27, 2007 8:24 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2010 6:55 am 6723 Views
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Who says our English is teruk(worse)? Just see below - Ours is simple,short,concise, straight-to-point, effective etc.........
WHEN GIVING A CUSTOMER BAD NEWS
Britons: I'm sorry, Sir, but we don't seem to have the sweater you want in your size, but if you give me a moment, I can call the other outlets for you.
Malaysians: No Stock.
WHEN DECLINING AN OFFER
Britons: I'd prefer not to do that, if you don't mind.
Malaysians: Don't want la...
WHEN ASKING SOMEONE TO LOWER THEIR VOICE.
Britons: Excuse me, but could you please ! lower your voice, I'm trying to concentrate over here.
Malaysians: Shut up lah!
WHEN ASKING SOMEONE IF HE/SHE KNOWS YOU.
Britons: Excuse me, but I noticed you staring at me for some time.. Do I know you?
Malaysians: See what, see what?
WHEN ASSESSING A TIGHT SITUATION.
Britons: We seem to be in a bit of a predicament at the moment.
Malaysians: Die-lah!!
WHEN TRYING TO FIND OUT WHAT HAD HAPPENED
Britons: Will someone tell me what has just happened?
Malaysians: What happen!! Why like that one....
WHEN SOME ONE DID SOMETHING WRONG
Britons: This isn't the way to do it here let me show you,
Malaysians: like that also don't know!!! see me lah!!
WHEN ONE IS ANGRY Britons: Would you mind not disturbing me
Malaysians:Celaka u~~~!!!
Hey Hey Malaysians Boleh !!!!!
Happy National Day!!!
MALAYSIA 50years old already.... dont play play leh~~~
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一个古老的传说
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Posted:Aug 25, 2007 8:18 pm
Last Updated:Mar 30, 2011 6:39 am 5958 Views
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这是一个古老的传说。。。
很久以前在老虎国有一对老虎兄妹。。。
它们各自特殊的能力。。。
哥哥有对千里眼，妹妹有对顺风耳。。。
它们一起长大一起快乐和悲伤。。。
后来它们爱上了对方。。。
它们知道这段爱情是不被允许的。。。
但是它们无法控制自己！！！
父亲知道后大发雷霆，母亲以泪洗面。。。
所有的动物都对它们指指点点。。。
这兄妹也非常伤心！！！
它们把上天赐给它们的礼物都放弃了！！！
哥哥眼睛看不到了，妹妹耳朵听不见了。。。
外人说什么他们都听不见，也看不到。。。
直到死去的那天。。。
千年以后有个音乐家，听了这凄美动人的爱情故事
大为感动，于是他作了一首现人大为熟悉的曲子。。。
希望你也会感动。。。
歌曲是这样的。。。
两只老虎。。两只老虎。。跑的快。。跑的快。。
一只没有眼睛。。一只没有耳朵。。真奇怪真奇怪。。
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It too hard to love
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Posted:Aug 23, 2007 9:15 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2010 7:02 am 5668 Views
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Many years ago, when we had no exprience of love, heart break yet.
A firend told me, go for someone you love, go for someone who loves you!?
He was right, and he is still right!
Is there really such miracle that two parties will love each other in the same depth?
It too hard to love someone.When you love him, you try to guess if he has the same feeling of you; You give your heart, but are so disappointed for not getting a heart back.
In all those uncertain moment, you start doubting about yourself, you feel you are no good enough, though you are such a perfect woman in others eyes.
Till one day, you tell yourself, he is not for me? you cry in the dark night, try pull your heart back, and letting he go. Even giving up would caues heartache, you need time to put youeself together, again.
You hurt someone by not giving your love, he hurt you in the same way.
You just get more confused, about love, about life.
why you can not just take all the chance to just have fun ? That would be too easy.
Does serious relationship exist in this world at all?
If u love me, put in to your heart, in your dream, in your live.
Take my heart with you. Wherever you go.
All I can do is waitng for the fantasy becoming true.
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當個愛的逃兵也很不錯！！
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Posted:Aug 23, 2007 8:33 pm
Last Updated:Jul 7, 2010 7:02 am 5110 Views
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當我帶上屋子的大門，把最後一件行李搬上後車廂時，我漸漸咀嚼出May當年離開學長的心情。
“我雖然沒有抓到任何證據，但女人的第六感告訴我，妳那回了大馬一年的學長有其他女朋友。”may斬釘截鐵的說。
當時May與學長已論及婚嫁，只待她的良民證發下來，她就會離開自小生長的寶島到大馬和學長結婚。但她卻突然舉家搬遷，換掉手機號碼，連工作也辭了，以無聲無息的方式告別學長。學長發了神經似的向May的朋友探聽她的去向卻一無所獲.
“我和妳學長談戀愛一年後才發現我竟然是第三者，他在大馬原來有個女朋友等他學成歸國！好吧，後來他選了我，那又怎樣？我和他在一起3年，他總是不停的和不同的女孩子搞曖昧，手機裡常常有女生傳來那種對他愛得死去活來的簡訊，更離譜的是竟然還有女孩子來到我跟前很挑釁的問我是不是他女朋友，但他卻總推說是我敏感，是我疑心病重。”
“上一次我到大馬短住，卻發現他把一張女孩子充滿情意的卡片鎖在櫃裡，妳說，如果這卡片對他沒有特別的意義，他有需要鎖起來嗎？早就扔了！然後又有一次有個女生來找他，他卻把我擋在房裡不淮我出去，他媽還配合演出的告訴那女生他不在，後來那女孩子還在客廳磨蹭半小時才離去。妳說，如果這裡頭不是有文章，他和他媽媽何必鬼鬼崇崇？”
“夠了，真的夠了。我雖然很愛你的學長，但我不想餘生50年每天都要疑神疑鬼他是不是有了外遇。”
直到今天，我始終沒有告訴學長我有找到May。我到現在還很清楚的記得，當我在電話中向May報上我的名字時，她先是驚慌失措，接下來卻是些許的厭煩，我知道她之所以沒有馬上把電話掛掉，只是基於我是學長眾多學弟妹中，唯一一個和她還算談得來的情份上。
說實在，我很欣賞May的壯士斷腕，比起許多為了追求愛情凌遲自己的精神，爭相仿效王寶釧的女性，May卻先是思考自己的感受的承載力，再來思考自己是否有這個力量承受這份愛情，May的愛情，多了女性在愛情和感受上的自主性。
數年前我在工作的場合認識猴子，對他，我對他是一見鐘情的~~在知道他是跨國公司的高階主管之前，在發現他能言善道但非強辭奪理之前，在發現他與我志趣相投之前，在發現他愛護婦孺尊重女性之前~~就是那種你一看到他，你整個人從頭到腳好像被電流快速穿過的感覺。
可惜的是，我和猴子對各自信仰理念的堅持，導至我倆關係始終無法跨前一步，於是我們的關係只能一直維持在曖昧的階段。
長時間無法晉級到戀愛關係的曖昧，讓我對從原先每次見到他的小鹿亂撞到最後的一灘死水激不起任何漣漪，我終於理解may當年去之而後快的心情。於是我帶著無法開始一段感情的悲涼上路的同時，心底卻徐徐泛起絲絲久違的喜悅。
在愛情和精神的承受力兩者中擇其一，我和都選擇了後者，因為我堅信屋外一大片的森林，何必為了一顆樹委屈求全？也許你會說我倆對我們的愛情不夠堅定，但當愛情加入了人性的積習難改和意識型態後，這不再是一加一等於二的純數學。對於這種非盡了力就能解決的問題，也許逃避才是根本解決之道？
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